The Three‑Stage Support Model

Julia’s signature framework for supporting highly masking autistic girls.

This model mirrors how ND brains recover from burnout, rebuild capacity, and re‑enter the world safely.

The Three‑Stage Support Model

Julia’s signature framework for supporting highly masking autistic girls.

This model mirrors how ND brains recover from burnout, rebuild capacity, and re‑enter the world safely.

Stage 1: Reconnect & Regulate

Stage 2: Rebuild & Re‑Engage

Stage 3: Navigate & Connect

Helping your child feel safe again

This stage is for girls who are overwhelmed, burnt out, shutting down, melting down, or stuck in survival mode.

The goal is simple:

Lower anxiety by helping their brain feel safe.

What we work on

  • Understanding that thoughts aren’t facts
  • Why their brain is currently seeing danger everywhere
  • Rebuilding internal safety and self‑trust
  • Meeting basic needs (sleep, food, rest, comfort)
  • Reducing sensory and emotional overload
  • Reconnecting with themselves after burnout

What this stage includes

  • 1:1 coaching (30 minutes, flexible if needed)
  • A guided relaxation download
  • A parent overview sheet after each session
  • Optional gentle activities (never pressure‑based)

Gently widening their world

Once they feel safer internally, we help them reconnect with the things that bring joy, comfort and stability.

What we work on
• Increasing the activities that boost dopamine and calm the nervous system
• Reconnecting with childhood interests (books, films, hobbies)
Creative expression as a form of regulation
• Building a personalised “survival kit” for daily life
Reducing exposure to anxiety‑inducing content
Re‑engaging with the world in small, safe ways

Why this matters
This stage helps them rediscover who they are when they’re not overwhelmed, and rebuild the confidence to exist in the world without masking so hard.

Connecting to her potential

This stage supports girls who are ready to practise real‑world skills without pressure, perfectionism or social overwhelm.

What we work on
• Identifying “safe people” and what safety feels like
• Setting boundaries for socialising (duration, environment, exit plans)
Understanding conversations as back‑and‑forth exchanges
Planning for outings: menus, routes, outfits, sensory needs
Managing energy so they don’t burn out after social time
Building independence in a way that feels achievable

Why this matters
This is where they learn how to move through the world in a way that protects their energy, honours their needs, and builds genuine confidence.

Stage 1: Reconnect & Regulate

Helping your child feel safe again

This stage is for girls who are overwhelmed, burnt out, shutting down, melting down, or stuck in survival mode.

The goal is simple:

Lower anxiety by helping their brain feel safe.

What we work on

  • Understanding that thoughts aren’t facts
  • Why their brain is currently seeing danger everywhere
  • Rebuilding internal safety and self‑trust
  • Meeting basic needs (sleep, food, rest, comfort)
  • Reducing sensory and emotional overload
  • Reconnecting with themselves after burnout

What this stage includes

  • 1:1 coaching (30 minutes, flexible if needed)
  • A guided relaxation download
  • A parent overview sheet after each session
  • Optional gentle activities (never pressure‑based)

Stage 2: Rebuild & Re‑Engage

Gently widening their world

Once they feel safer internally, we help them reconnect with the things that bring joy, comfort and stability.

What we work on
• Increasing the activities that boost dopamine and calm the nervous system
• Reconnecting with childhood interests (books, films, hobbies)
Creative expression as a form of regulation
• Building a personalised “survival kit” for daily life
Reducing exposure to anxiety‑inducing content
Re‑engaging with the world in small, safe ways

Why this matters
This stage helps them rediscover who they are when they’re not overwhelmed, and rebuild the confidence to exist in the world without masking so hard.

Stage 3: Navigate & Connect

Connecting to her potential

This stage supports girls who are ready to practise real‑world skills without pressure, perfectionism or social overwhelm.

What we work on
• Identifying “safe people” and what safety feels like
• Setting boundaries for socialising (duration, environment, exit plans)
Understanding conversations as back‑and‑forth exchanges
Planning for outings: menus, routes, outfits, sensory needs
Managing energy so they don’t burn out after social time
Building independence in a way that feels achievable

Why this matters
This is where they learn how to move through the world in a way that protects their energy, honours their needs, and builds genuine confidence.

Who This Programme Is For

Girls who are:
Masking at school and collapsing at home
Struggling with friendships or feeling isolated
• Experiencing anxiety, low mood or self‑harm urges
Burnt out from sensory overload or academic pressure
• Finding transitions, routines or organisation difficult
• Showing physical signs of stress (stomach aches, headaches, exhaustion)

This programme is designed specifically for highly masking ND girls in mainstream settings.

How the Programme Works

The programme follows Julia’s three‑stage model:

1. Reconnect & Regulate

Lowering anxiety and rebuilding internal safety.

2. Rebuild & Re‑Engage

Increasing joy, comfort and capacity.

3. Navigate & Connect

Building confidence, boundaries and real‑world skills.

 

Each girl moves at her own pace.


There is no rushing, no pressure, and no “shoulds”.

What’s Included

• Weekly 1:1 coaching sessions (30 minutes, flexible if needed)
• A guided relaxation download
• A parent overview sheet after each session
• Optional gentle activities or worksheets
• A personalised plan based on your child’s needs and strengths
Support that adapts as she moves through the three stages

Next Steps...

Book a FREE 30 minute initial consultation to explore whether the programme is the right fit for your daughter.

A calm, supportive conversation.

No pressure. No commitment.

Ready to Book an Initial Assessment?

This first session is a gentle, low‑pressure space for your daughter to meet me and begin sharing what life feels like for her. 

It’s designed to help her feel safe, heard and supported from the very beginning.

Parents are welcome to join for part of the session if needed, but the focus is on giving your daughter a calm, comfortable place to start.

With no expectations and no pressure to perform.

Safeguarding Information

Your daughter’s wellbeing and safety sit at the heart of this work.

To ensure full transparency for both the child and their parents, every appointment is transcribed.

This creates a clear record of what was discussed, what tools were used, and how your daughter is progressing.

These notes can also be used by Julia to develop tailored reports, resources and further support tools that meet your child’s specific needs.

It’s a simple, effective way to keep everyone informed, aligned and supported throughout the process.

A full DBS certification for parental peace of mind.